"It is hard to be poor without resentment; it is easier to be rich without arrogance."

On Human Relations

巧言令色，鲜矣仁!

"Clever words and an ingratiating appearance are seldom associated with humanity."

In "巧言令色，鲜矣仁!," Confucius focuses on clever words and an ingratiating appearance are seldom associated with humanity. The exact principle is that virtue is proven by choices when convenience, fear, or comparison pulls the other way. The tension is not generic humanity and virtue; it is the specific problem that people praise goodness in principle but fail to move toward it when a concrete moment asks for cost, which still appears in noticing a person to emulate, a fault to avoid, or a small chance to do the right thing.

On Human Relations

不患人之不己知，患其不能 也

"Do not worry that others do not know you; worry that you lack ability."

In "不患人之不己知，患其不能 也," Confucius focuses on do not worry that others do not know you; worry that you lack ability. The exact principle is that moral progress begins by turning judgment inward before turning it outward. The tension is not generic self examination; it is the specific problem that people notice faults in others faster than they correct the same pattern in themselves, which still appears in feeling irritated by another person's mistake, weakness, or success.

On Human Relations

君子欲讷于言而敏于行

"A person of character wishes to be slow in speech and quick in action."

In "君子欲讷于言而敏于行," Confucius focuses on a person of character wishes to be slow in speech and quick in action. The exact principle is that words should be slower than responsibility and close enough for action to catch them. The tension is not generic speech and action; it is the specific problem that people use speech to look capable before their conduct has earned that confidence, which still appears in promising a deadline, offering an opinion, asking a question, or joining a discussion.