"A young person, at home, should be filial; abroad, respectful to elders; careful and trustworthy; broadly loving people and close to the humane."

Chinese Original

弟子，入则孝，出则悌，谨而信，泛爱众而亲仁。

English Rendering

A young person, at home, should be filial; abroad, respectful to elders; careful and trustworthy; broadly loving people and close to the humane.

Chinese Translation

孔子说:"少年在家里孝顺父母，敬爱兄长，做事谨慎认真，说话诚实，博爱大众而亲近有仁德的人。

Modern Meaning

In "弟子，入则孝，出则悌，谨而信，泛爱众而亲仁," Confucius focuses on a young person, at home, should be filial. The exact principle is that virtue is proven by choices when convenience, fear, or comparison pulls the other way. The tension is not generic humanity and virtue; it is the specific problem that people praise goodness in principle but fail to move toward it when a concrete moment asks for cost, which still appears in noticing a person to emulate, a fault to avoid, or a small chance to do the right thing.

How to Apply Today

Use this teaching today in noticing a person to emulate, a fault to avoid, or a small chance to do the right thing. Because this line says "A young person, at home, should be filial," turn the observed virtue or fault into one behavior you can copy or refuse today, so the lesson becomes visible in one behavior.

Reflection Question

For "弟子，入则孝，出则悌，谨而信，泛爱众而亲仁" (row 162, 孝亲篇 / On Filial Piety and Fraternal Duty), What specific virtue is this situation asking me to show rather than merely admire?

Action Step

Name one good trait you saw today and copy it once in a concrete interaction, specifically in response to this demand: "A young person, at home, should be filial."

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